[90 Day Fiance Spoiler Warning: This report contains spoilers revealing if Kalani and Asuelu are still together or if the 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After? couple has split.]
Kalani, a 31-year-old from Orange County, CA, and Asuelu, a 24-year-old from Samoa, found fame when they starred on Season 6 of 90 Day Fiance in 2019.
The pair met in July 2016 when Kalani was visiting a resort where Asuelu worked as the activities director, and they continued dating once Kalani returned to America.
After trying to make things work long distance, Kalani flew back Samoa to see if she and Asuelu had the potential for a long-term relationship. And things got hot and heavy quickly because Kalani decided to lose her virginity to Asuelu.
But the sexual encounter resulted in a surprise pregnancy Kalani didn’t seem ready for.
The news also rocked Kalani’s Mormon family given she didn’t want until marriage to have sex and her father Low never wanted one of his daughters to end up with a Samoan man like himself.
Despite her family’s disapproval, Kalani applied for a K-1 visa so Asuelu could move to the United States and become her husband and a hands-on father. At the time, their son Oliver had turned five months old.
Although Kalani and Asuelu had their fair share of struggles — such as Asuelu adapting to American culture and being a new dad — the pair got married in September 2018.
90 Day Fiance‘s sixth season ended with Kalani and Asuelu’s wedding as well as Kalani learning she was pregnant with Baby No. 2.
Kalani and Asuelu found out they were expecting another child together less than a year after she had given birth to Oliver, which was another big surprise!
Kalani and Asuelu are now parents of two sons: Kennedy, who was born in May 2019, and Oliver, whom the couple welcomed in January 2018.
Kalani apparently found motherhood a bit overwhelming because she suggested in a September 2019 poll on her Instagram that Asuelu didn’t help out much.
While she did not name Asuelu directly in her Instagram post, she made it clear she was venting about her husband’s alleged laziness and his unrealistic expectations of her as a wife and mother of two.
“Do all husbands expect their wives to pay bills, clean the whole house, do all the laundry, feed/watch the kids 24/7 (unless said husband is in public or wants a selfie)?” Kalani asked in the poll.
“Asking for my gottdamn self. Is this normal?” she added.
Apparently 70 percent of Kalani’s followers who participated in the poll answered “No.”
However, the couple appeared to be a very happy family at Christmas time in December 2019.
On 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?’s fifth season, Asuelu was shown at work passing out free samples. The couple had been married for one year and three months at the time of filming.
Kalani suggested her marriage was suffering and she was exhausted all the time, so her parents moved in with the couple to help them out with Oliver and Kennedy, which made Asuelu feel a bit uncomfortable since he could no longer be the man of the house.
Kalani said she wanted Asuelu to help out more with the babies and around the house, but Asuelu grew up believing those are the wife’s responsibilities.
Kalani argued Asuelu would rather play volleyball or video games after work than assist her and spend time with his family. She also complained they hadn’t been on a romantic date in four months.
“I just wish that Asuelu and I could get back to the point where we were in the beginning of our relationship, where we loved to be around each other. I just miss that, and if Asuelu refuses to change, I don’t know if I can keep doing this anymore,” Kalani said in a confessional.
Kalani’s dad Low also wanted Asuelu to “step up” and stop “f-cking around.” Low said Asuelu would get his “ass whooped or sent back to Samoa” if things didn’t change for the better.
Asuelu therefore brought Kalani out on a fun date, but their happiness didn’t last long because Asuelu asked his wife to travel to Samoa with him so their children could see where he grew up.
Not only would the trip cost thousands of dollars in plane fare alone, but Asuelu’s sister also warned him that there had been a Measles outbreak recently and children were dying from it.
Asuelu and Kalani’s son Kennedy wasn’t vaccinated and wasn’t supposed to get that MMR vaccine until 12-24 months old, according to his doctor.
Given Kennedy was only seven months old at the time, Kalani was worried and decided to postpone the trip until a later date, which left Asuelu feeling angry, resentful and unsupported.
Instead of going to Samoa, Kalani drove her family to California in order to celebrate Oliver’s second birthday, but Asuelu was noticeably in a bad mood.
Kalani said if Asuelu is mad at her or things don’t go his way, he’ll criticize her and try to make her feel bad about everything she does.
During the car ride to California, Asuelu called Kalani’s job as a mother “easy”
“I think Kalani can’t do what mother in Samoa do,” Asuelu said.
Kalani argued that she was the one up all night with both of their sick kids when she was sick too and did “everything for them,” and Asuelu called her out for being “annoying” as well as a “lying b-tch.”
Kalani’s mother was driving the car and scolded Asuelu for talking to her daughter that way, which only made Asuelu more frustrated.
“I don’t know how your husband talk to you when you guys been together. But it’s my wife; I can talk whatever,” Asuelu said. “Your daughter asks stupid questions.”
Kalani’s mother called Asuelu “disrespectful,” and Kalani felt Asuelu was trying to sabotage the weekend and ruin it for everyone as a way to get back at her for canceling their trip to Samoa.
“It just shows me that he doesn’t really care about me and the boys and he’s just No. 1 to himself,” Kalani complained in a confessional, later adding that she’d never be “subservient” to a man.
During a heated confrontation in the backyard, Kalani called Asuelu “a manipulator” because of his attempts to change the subject every time he wanted to back himself out of an uncomfortable conversation. She desired “an equal partnership.”
Since the pair couldn’t reach a resolution and Asuelu felt Kalani didn’t respect what he contributed, Asuelu took off with his suitcase and left the house. Oliver followed Asuelu out the door, but he just kept walking.
After walking all the way down the road, Asuelu hopped on a random bus that was apparently heading to Utah, and he said he was going to find a place to stay. Kalani called Asuelu “ridiculous.”
That night, Asuelu apparently sent Kalani three false locations to drive to in order to pick him up, and once she was ready to give up, he gave his actual location.
Kalani said Asuelu didn’t want to talk to her once he got home, and Kalani’s sister Kolini said Asuelu “sucked the life” out of her sister and it was hard to see.
Kalani agreed with her family that Asuelu was “in the wrong” and had behaved rudely, and so she hoped Asuelu would come around and apologize. But instead, Asuelu refused to leave their room.
“It’s frustrating. It’s like talking to a four year old,” Kalani vented to her sister.
Low told Asuelu that he needed to be there for his son’s birthday and put his issues aside, so Asuelu ultimately joined the party but Kalani’s sister Kolini thought he was just “putting on a show for everyone, which is what he does.”
“Asuelu is a fine actor. I know his bullsh-t — but whatever makes him feel better,” Kolini told the cameras.
A few days after Kalani and Asuelu returned home from California, Asuelu said things between Kalani’s family and himself were very “tense” and nobody wanted to talk to him — probably because he didn’t want to talk to any of them either.
Low acknowledged men in Samoa want to control their wives and that’s the culture, but he said he didn’t raise his daughters to put up with that behavior and be submissive.
Low told Asuelu that swearing at Lisa and Kalani was “unacceptable,” and Asuelu confessed to “doing really bad things.”
Low was apparently fed up with giving Asuelu second, third and fourth chances. Low was trying his best “not to get violent,” but he demanded, “You need to learn how to treat your wife, because I’m not having that.”
Asuelu insisted he was really sorry and intended to be more careful with his words and actions.
Asuelu later apologized to Kalani, saying that boarding a bus in California with his suitcase was “not a smart idea” and he was “so wrong in saying that a woman in Samoa is better” than Kalani.
Kalani said Asuelu’s apology meant a lot to her but he needed to change his actions. And in order to make Asuelu happier in their marriage, she agreed to visit his mother and two half-sisters in Washington State.
But when Asuelu videchatted with his mother to give her the good news he’d be visiting, she asked for $1,000, and Asuelu said he didn’t have that much money — and then blamed it on Kalani.
Kalani got upset because she said she hated being the bad guy, and she couldn’t believe Asuelu had thrown her under the bus like that.
Kalani and Asuelu then went to a Samoan store to buy gifts for Asuelu’s family and disagreed on how many gifts and how much money to give them.
Asuelu wanted to give his family $1,000 plus gifts so they could be tight with each other, but Kalani thought that was an “unrealistic amount since Asuelu was only working part-time and basically only made $1,000 a month.
“I don’t know on what planet we would have that money to just give out randomly,” Kalani said.
Kalani suggested they should give his mother $50, but the couple ended up agreeing to $100 plus gifts. Kalani told the cameras maybe Asuelu’s family deserved a slap in the face if they wouldn’t be happy with $100 and thoughtful gifts, which turned out to be close to $200.
Kalani figured Asuelu was “trying to buy his family’s love” and it was no longer “a cultural thing.”
Asuelu was overjoyed about the idea of being reunited with his mother and sister, but Kalani demanded they sleep at an AirBnB overnight in Washington State once they arrived and Kennedy started crying uncontrollably in the backseat and was up way past his bedtime.
Asuelu simply wasn’t happy about having to wait until the next day to see his family, but Kalani said Kennedy wasn’t going to stop screaming and meeting up with Asuelu’s family that night wasn’t a good idea.
“I don’t know how I feel… I feel frustrated about everything,” Asuelu complained.
Did Kalani and Asuelu end up breaking up or is the 90 Day Fiance couple still together?
Asuelu is still working at the same nutrition store in Utah — which is near the home he shares with Kalani — where he was shown passing out free samples on an episode of 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After?.
Also, the pair definitely appear to still be married based on their social-media activity.
In late July, Asuelu captioned a series of photos of his family in Pine Valley, UT. They appeared to do some hiking by a lake.
“Family Adventure #blessed #love #utahcheck,” Asuelu captioned the slideshow.
Asuelu also posted a TikTok video of himself dancing in the couple’s kitchen about a week earlier, and Kalani can be seen in the background preparing food for her family.
Asuelu captioned the video, “Morning routine after riding the bus.”
In early July, Asuelu wished Kalani a happy birthday on his Instagram account by posting a video of his wife and son. He wrote over the video “love of my life.”
And in the caption, Asuelu gushed, “My wife’s birthday. Cheers for 32nd years my love @kalanifaagata and many more to come.”
Not only has Kalani also posted recent photos with Asuelu on Instagram, but the couple has additionally shared two YouTube videos on their channel in the last month after not uploading anything on their channel for almost a year.
As recently as June 30, Kalani posted a sweet photo of Asuelu cuddling with their boys on Instagram Stories.
One week earlier, Kalani posted a smiling selfie with Asuelu, a video of Asuelu laughing in a massage chair, and brief throwback clips of the couple’s axe-throwing date.
Kalani uploaded the photos and videos shortly after the June 21 episode of 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After? aired on TLC, and she captioned the slideshow, “BTS of tonight’s episode. What’d y’all think?”
On May 24, Kalani posted a video clip on Instagram of Asuelu and herself talking about how they had once walked through a jungle in Samoa and explored a cave together.
The couple was promoting a video they had posted on YouTube.
“In honor of #samoanlanguageweek, we posted a YouTube video where I butcher basic Samoan, and we talk about our dating life in Samoa (pictures included),” Kalani wrote on Instagram.
A couple of weeks earlier on May 8, Kalani and Asuelu posted a YouTube video of how they celebrated Kennedy’s first birthday.
Kalani and Asuelu enjoyed many laughs as Kennedy was spoiled with a fun pool day, gifts, cake, bubbles and a pinata.
On April 27, Kalani posted a slideshow of photos with Asuelu and captioned the post, “Pretending we’re in Samoa.”
And going back to March 1, Kalani uploaded a photo of the married pair, revealing they had met Robyn and Kody from TLC’s Sister Wives.
The two couples met each other while enjoying brunch at a restaurant and Kalani mentioned they should double-date soon.